Knowing the Importance of Self-Love in Career

By Nabila Choirunnisa   |  

Self-love is a form of acceptance and appreciation of oneself. But sometimes this is forgotten when someone focuses on their work and career. Pursuing achievements in a career in order to get appreciation from colleagues or companies makes someone sometimes force himself to complete his work.

Even though the most important thing in a career is not only achieving company targets, but satisfaction and self-happiness in doing work. This is an example of self-love.

The term “self-love” is currently popular and widely echoed, especially on social media. This happens because there are issues and events related to a person’s mental health condition that are widely discussed by the community. The rise of discussion related to this also triggers awareness of the importance of mental health in a career.

What is self-love and why is self-love important? Here is a review about the importance of self-love, especially for those of you who have a career. Check out the reviews!

Definition of self-love:

Self-love is accepting the good and the bad in yourself. Many people confuse self-love with narcissism and selfishness. Although they both put themselves forward, the three have different meanings. In the case of narcissism, a person loves themselves excessively, which causes selfishness and tends to think that he is the most righteous.

Self-love is an attitude of loving yourself by treating yourself well and accepting yourself as you are. Loving yourself does not mean having to fulfill yourself with all your desires without considering the situation and circumstances. Imagine if you wanted to apply self-love on the condition that you had to fulfill all desires that were beyond your capabilities. This will actually put pressure on yourself, which is the opposite of self-love.

Then, in terms of accepting yourself as you are, it doesn’t mean you don’t need to make changes to the negative or less good things in yourself. For example, you may lack ability in a job skill that you are engaged in. Then, under the pretext of self-love, you don’t want to try to attend training and learn new things to develop your skills. In fact, updating skills and knowledge is one simple form of self-love that you can do for yourself.

In addition, self-love can be a foundation that allows you to be assertive, have healthy relationships with others, pursue interests and dreams, and feel proud of yourself in any situation. It can be said that self-love is self-confidence, respect for oneself, and gratitude for living as oneself and trying to be a better person without forcing oneself to be like other people.

Someone who has self-love will be able to accept and appreciate every little thing in his life, including the love that other people give him. Meanwhile, people who do not have self-love tend to find it difficult to accept and appreciate the big things that happen in their lives, often punishing and cursing themselves for the small mistakes they have made, thus making themselves more pessimistic and difficult to develop.

As a result, mental and even physical health can also be disrupted due to a lack of self-love, for example, being often sick, easily depressed, and having difficulty establishing good relationships with others. Therefore, having self-love is important for one’s happiness and mental and physical health.

The Benefits of Self-Love

Managing self-love well will provide many benefits to your life. Not only does it provide benefits for peace of mind in living life, self-love also provides other benefits for your mental and physical health. The following are some of the benefits that you can get from self-love.

1. Find happiness in your life.

When you apply self-love, you will find it easier to accept yourself, both your strengths and weaknesses. It also helps you accept life’s conditions, ups and downs, successes and failures, and makes you more responsible for your actions.

Having control over yourself affects the achievement of satisfaction in life because everything you do is based on your own decisions without coercion from others. Whatever it is, if it is done out of self-control, self-satisfaction will be easier to achieve than if it is done on the basis of satisfying others.

2. Motivated to adopt a healthy lifestyle

Giving the best for yourself, especially in terms of maintaining a healthy body, is a form of self-love. This will certainly be realized when you have a sense of love for yourself. Because self-love can be an encouragement or motivation for you to live a healthier life, For example, by consuming healthy foods, exercising, getting enough rest, and maintaining personal hygiene.

This is especially important for those of you who work, because usually you are too focused on meeting work deadlines, so you eat poorly and don’t get enough rest.

3. Boost self-esteem and self-confidence

Self-confidence is an important thing that everyone needs to have. By increasing self-love, it will also indirectly increase self-confidence and how you see and accept yourself.

In addition, with confidence, you will also be more patient and tough in dealing with problems in life. In addition, you will also be wiser in responding to other people’s views of you.

4. Reducing the likelihood of developing mental health disorders

Having a hard time accepting yourself for who you are and not being comfortable with being who you are are things that can stress you out. As a result, this will interfere with your psychological health.

Research shows that people who have low self-esteem tend to be more prone to mental disorders such as depression, emotions, and self-harm. Keep in mind that psychological conditions can also affect your physical health. Therefore, to avoid it all, you need to practice self-love for the sake of your psychological health.

5. Help reduce anxiety

Another benefit of having self-love is that it helps you reduce and deal with excessive anxiety. Loving yourself will make it easier for you to accept yourself and be calm without worrying about things you don’t really need. The term that is often used today is overthinking. Worrying about things that didn’t necessarily happen, that has happened, and the little things because of a lack of self-love can stress you out and take a toll on your physical health.

6. Provides positive energy

Self-love is also useful in giving positive energy to yourself. When you are surrounded by positive energy, you will see things from the bright side, and life will be calmer and happier.

In addition, you will also be able to spread positive energy to those around you. so that other people are comfortable around you and you create good relationships. Positive energy is also very influential on the spirit of life and your mindset.

Applying self-love

After knowing what the benefits that can be obtained from self-love are, The following are some of the ways you can practice self-love.

1. Become acquainted with yourself

To love yourself, of course, you must first know yourself completely. Find answers for yourself, such as about your life goals, what makes you happy, your favorite foods, your biggest fears, what dreams you want to achieve, your weaknesses and strengths.

2. Don’t compare yourself to others.

Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s a must-have self-love attitude. That way, you can focus on your goals and dreams as well as your own happiness. In addition, you will also become more calm and confident.

3. Safeguard and care for yourself.

A simple form of self-love is to take care of your health and take care of yourself. Health is the most important thing to pay attention to. As the saying goes, “in a healthy body there is a strong soul.”

4. Learn to be thankful.

The simplest but sometimes difficult thing to do is to be grateful for what you have, especially being grateful for yourself in any condition. Starting by being grateful for the little things will make it easier for you to be happy and appreciate yourself. Try to thank yourself and take lessons from every situation you go through.

5. Avoid toxic friendships and relationships.

Apart from yourself, the environment also affects the course of your life. In this case, you should be more careful about choosing friends or partners. Connecting with people who have a positive influence and energy on you is a form of loving yourself.

6. Show your personality

Expressing yourself can be done by doing what you love or creating something you love. For example, making paintings, composing songs, cooking, doing certain sports, and so on. In addition, letting your heart out when you feel angry, sad, or happy also includes expressing yourself. You don’t have to suppress your feelings just because you’re afraid of being judged as weak or bad.

7. Learn to say “No”

Learning to say “no” or to say no to something you don’t want to do and that makes you uncomfortable is what you need to do to practice self-love. Keep in mind that you don’t have to make everyone happy, especially if it’s a burden on yourself.

8. Recognize your apprehension.

You don’t need to avoid fear because it is something that everyone has and is very human. Identify your fear by evaluating what made it appear. That way, you will slowly be able to reduce and even overcome your fear when it arises.

9. Remember that nobody is perfect. 

Everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages. Know that it’s normal to make mistakes. Instead of making it something that brings you down, learn from those mistakes to become a better person.

10. Make decisions with confidence.

When you make decisions, make sure that they come from your mind and heart, not solely based on the opinions of others. You have to believe in your abilities and believe that the decision is something that comes from within so that there will be no regrets in the future. For that, before making a decision, you need to know the consequences and other considerations so that there is no doubt in making the decision.

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